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I told people that my boyfriend was my uncle — I was ashamed of our 37-year age gap


What the puck? A young ice hockey player says he spent years pretending his much-older boyfriend was his uncle — because he had not come out as gay and was embarrassed by their 37-year-age gap.

Janne Puhakka was 19 years old when he met Rolf Nordmo, then aged 56, in June 2014.

At the time, Puhakka was playing pro ice hockey for the Québec Major junior team and had not disclosed his true identity to his family, friends or teammates.

“I was frightened, and I didn’t want people to know about my sexuality,” Puhakka, now 27, told South West News Services. “I was scared of the way I would be perceived in the ultra-masculine sporting world.”

Puhakka and Nordmo spent the summer together in Europe, and quickly realized their deep attraction to one another.

“I knew that I had feelings I had never felt before but was constantly telling myself it was just a summer fling and wouldn’t work because of our age gap,” Nordmo, now 64, stated.

“I was fighting myself the whole time and was trying to fight the love I had for him but it was impossible,” he continued. “I had never felt like this before. I thought ‘What on earth does this young man want with me, an old pig?’”

Janne Puhakka 27, and Rolf Nordmo, 64, have been dating for eight years after first meeting in 2014. Puhakka only came out publicly in 2019, after spending years telling people that Nordmo was his "uncle."
Janne Puhakka 27, and Rolf Nordmo, 64, have been dating for eight years after first meeting in 2014. Puhakka only came out publicly in 2019, after spending years telling people that Nordmo was his “uncle.”
Janne Puhakka / SWNS
The couple first matched on an internet dating site before meeting in person. They fell for each other instantly.
The couple first matched on an internet dating site before meeting in person. They fell for each other instantly.
Instagram / Janne Puhakka
"I had never felt like this before. I thought 'What on earth does this young man want with me, an old pig?'" Nordmo also felt self-conscious about the age-gap.
“I had never felt like this before. I thought ‘What on earth does this young man want with me, an old pig?’” Nordmo also felt self-conscious about the age-gap.

Puhakka also admitted he was falling in love with Nordmo, but was not yet ready to publicly come out of the closet.

After the summer ended, he returned to Canada for the commencement of the next ice hockey season, with Nordmo flying out to visit him a short time later.

Puhakka — originally from Finland — was staying with a host family in Canada and lied to them, saying Nordmo was his uncle so that he could go and see him at his hotel.

“I had to keep him a secret and it isn’t a nice thing to hide the person you love,” Puhakka admitted.

Puhakka later came out to his family, and told them that his boyfriend was the same age as his dad.

The family took the news well, but Puhakka still wasn’t ready to tell his teammates and other friends about his beau — so he kept up the “uncle” lie.

The pair have spent the past three years living in Helsinki, Norway — where people often mistake them for father and son.
Janne Puhakka / SWNS

Meanwhile, Nordmo had been married to a woman for 17 years, and had three children, before coming out aged 40, so he understood his boyfriend’s hesitation in being openly gay.

However, the brave sportsman finally came out publicly in 2019, quitting ice hockey and returning to Europe to move in with Nordmo.

The pair have spent the past three years living in Helsinki, Norway — where people often mistake them for father and son.

“We find all the comments quite funny and once people start talking and get to know us they are generally so warm and accepting,” Nordmo stated.

Meanwhile, others believe Nordmo — who works as a vet — is Puhakka’s “sugar daddy.”

“When we’re out on the town and I buy him a drink people instantly make assumptions because I’m older, but he has his own job and makes his own money,” Nordmo stated. “Sometimes I pay and sometimes he pays.”

Some assume the much-older Nordmo — who works as a vet — is Puhakka's "sugar daddy.
Some assume the much-older Nordmo — who works as a vet — is Puhakka’s “sugar daddy.”
Nordmo has three children, all of whom are close to Puhakka in age. They have come to accept their dad's relationship.
Nordmo has three children, all of whom are close to Puhakka in age. They have come to accept their dad’s relationship.
Instagram / Janne Puhakka

The couple say they haven’t noticed their almost four-decade age gap, with Nordmo romantically swooning: “I often say Janne is an old soul in a young body and I’m a young soul in an old body.”

His three children — who were initially reluctant about their dad’s romance with a teenager who was around their same age — are now accepting of the partnership.

And Nordmo can more than keep up in the bedroom with his much-younger beau, despite being in late middle-age.

Puhakka even revealed to Southwest News that he sometimes has to tell his amorous older boyfriend that he needs a day off from sex.

The couple say they have a healthy sex life and don't notice their age gap inside or outside of the bedroom.
The couple say they have a healthy sex life and don’t notice their age gap inside or outside of the bedroom.
Janne Puhakka / SWNS

For now, the couple don’t plan to have any children of their own, and are loved-up living together with their dog.

“It’s important to be happy now and I don’t see the point in dwelling on the future,” Nordmo stated about his advancing years. “Who knows what’s around the corner?”





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